{"id":40729,"date":"2026-04-04T08:05:00","date_gmt":"2026-04-04T08:05:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/foreignnewstoday.com\/?p=40729"},"modified":"2026-04-04T08:05:00","modified_gmt":"2026-04-04T08:05:00","slug":"my-wife-and-i-havent-been-intimate-for-eight-years-im-thinking-about-cheating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/foreignnewstoday.com\/?p=40729","title":{"rendered":"My wife and I haven&#8217;t been intimate for eight years&#8230; I&#8217;m thinking about cheating"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><br \/>\n<br \/><\/p>\n<div>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> I have been happily married for 28 years but have not been intimate with my wife for the last eight of them. It all came to a halt when we prioritized raising our (four) children. We had been intimate on a regular basis for 20 years until it slowly faded and then stopped.<\/p>\n<p>I have tried pretty much everything and had many conversations with my wife; nothing has changed. I haven\u2019t tried counseling because I don\u2019t think she would go for it. Any advice? I feel like I\u2019m out of options. I don\u2019t want to stray, but I feel I\u2019m being pulled to do so. <em>\u2014 LESS HAPPY IN PENNSYLVANIA<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR LESS HAPPY: <\/strong>Tell your wife that eight years is long enough for a married man to remain celibate, and ask which she would prefer \u2014 marriage counseling or a divorce. Cheating is not the answer. There are remedies for a lapsed libido, but none can be explored if the two of you aren\u2019t communicating.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n\t<\/aside>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> My son is getting married next year. He and his future wife are extremely religious. My daughter (his sister) is also engaged \u2014 to a wonderful woman. Because of my daughter\u2019s lesbian relationship, my son does not plan to invite his sister\u2019s fiancee to the wedding, saying their values don\u2019t align. (If he didn\u2019t feel obligated, he wouldn\u2019t invite his sister either.) I am devastated by this. This is disrespectful to my daughter and her fiancee. What are your thoughts? <em>\u2014 DIVIDED MOM IN NEW YORK<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>DEAR MOM:<\/strong> I am sorry for your pain. My \u201cthought\u201d is that your son\u2019s religious convictions have already created a rift in the family. Of course this is disrespectful to his sister and her fiancee, but this is how your son intends to live the rest of his life. Personally, I think your daughter should politely refuse the invitation if she receives one. Looking forward, you must prepare to socialize separately with her and her future wife and their friends, who will comprise their \u201cchosen\u201d family.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module aligncenter\">\n<\/aside>\n<p><strong>DEAR ABBY:<\/strong> I\u2019m about a month away from officially adopting my 7-year-old great-niece. I adopted her half-brother 10 years ago. Her mother passed away last year. Her father is in prison and will remain there until she is past 18.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d like to change her middle name, but I\u2019m worried she\u2019ll resent me for it down the road. Her first name wouldn\u2019t change, and her last name is already the same as mine. Her middle name isn\u2019t a very sophisticated one. She keeps changing her mind about wanting to change it. What should I do? I want to set her up for success later in life. <em>\u2014 GREAT-AUNT IN COLORADO<\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"single__inline-module inline-module inline-module--newsletter aligncenter inline-module--nypostbusinessunit aligncenter wp-block-nypost-editor-newsletter\" data-source-unit=\"Inline Newsletter Module Post Opinion\">\n<div class=\"inline-module__inner\">\n<div class=\"inline-module__title-wrapper\">\n<div class=\"inline-module__unsubmitted-title-wrapper\">\n<h3 class=\"inline-module__title headline headline--combo-sm-md\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tGet opinions and commentary from our columnists\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/h3>\n<p class=\"inline-module__cta\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSubscribe to our daily Post Opinion newsletter!\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><h3 class=\"inline-module__title headline headline--combo-sm-md\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\tThanks for signing up!\t\t\t\t\t<\/h3>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><strong>DEAR GREAT-AUNT: <\/strong>Tell your great-niece that because she is ambivalent about changing her middle name, you think it would be appropriate to table the discussion until she turns 18. She may want to choose one for herself, and that way she\u2019ll have plenty of time to make up her mind.<\/p>\n<p>Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dearabby.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">www.DearAbby.com<\/a> or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2026\/04\/04\/lifestyle\/dear-abby-my-wife-and-i-havent-been-intimate-for-eight-years-im-thinking-about-cheating\/\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married for 28 years but have not been intimate with my wife for the last eight of them. 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